What Your Words Reveal About You


For the mouth simply shapes the heart’s impulses into words.

-Jesus, Matthew 12:34, The Voice

i like how this is stated. we know how hard it is to control the tongue. it is described as an unruly member of our body. combine that concept with the impulses of the heart…you get a dangerous combination.

impulses are impetus. it is acting or doing something quickly and without thought or care; moving forcefully or rapidly: “an impetuous flow of water”.

we can site situations in our lives when impulsive behaviour, actions and yes, words do not bring the best of results.

whether we realise it or not, the words rushing out of our mouth is giving an indication of the contents of our heart…the real “us” deep in our inner being.

i once worked for a dentist, back home in the states, who sat quietly, his arms crossed, considering the situation at hand with great thought. i came to learn that when he did speak, i should consider carefully the words he was speaking because they carried wisdom, forethought, strength, authority and power. many times the truth in the words stung but the words did not. i have grown to understand that deep within his heart dwelt wisdom, knowledge, authority and strength. it flowed from his heart and he used his words to convey those contents very carefully.

he did not say everything on his mind (i’m sure). he didn’t give continual instruction and advice…but when he did, it was worth applying.

i remember i wanted to learn how to use the Microsoft Excel program. he simply pointed me in the right direction and told me to experiment with it and i would learn. i was so frustrated. yet, i did learn how to use the software plus i learned a lot about myself and problem solving that i would not have learned if he just shown me everything. wisdom was in his heart. he understood the importance of the search for knowledge…and he shared who he was with me. he did not have to demonstrate his knowledge and wisdom…he just pointed me in the direction that would lead me to us them.

he also told me one day that i needed to stop crying so much…basically, grow up and toughen up. he was kind and gentle but stern. the advice he gave me was a part of my journey toward healing the contents of pain in my own heart. he often listened to me ramble on about things. he listened and rarely gave me answers…but one day, in the midst of my tears…he gave this advice. kind of out of left field to me but not for him. it was an important piece of wisdom for my life. not at all the wisdom i thought i was looking for.

we can often attempt to use words to provide proof that we are important, powerful, strong and in control. these proofs lead us to speak of others in a way that only demonstrates that in our heart we are lacking true depth.

the following 3 keys will help:
1. guard your heart. fill your heart with good motivations and good will flow out of it.
2. be quick to listen
3. be slow to speak

these keys will help us work to prevent impulsive words.

what we say speaks volumes about the you and me that dwells in the heart. if hurt and pain fills our heart, our words will shape hurtful words; if pride then arrogant words and so forth. if our words are demonstrating something different than we want…we can work to make improvements. it will lead to better relationships, successful living and a kinder, gentler heart. those contents will be evident in what comes flowing out of our mouth.

please help me encourage others to take inventory of their heart and work toward improving a valuable life skill. i would appreciate it if you would share this post with your friends and family. consider working together to create stronger, healthier relationships…your world will be impacted toward becoming a better place.

have a good weekend,

a great lesson about shortcuts

20130830-222236.jpgshortcuts remove you from your path. i won’t say that every shortcut is worthless. in my travels, i have taken a by-pass on a highway to lessen the frustrations of slow traffic, stop lights and small town nuisances. it shaves some time off the trip. however, i have noticed that the scenic route is not usually on the by-pass…it’s in taking the extra time and effort, slowing down a little that the beauty of the journey is revealed.

it’s not always about the destination…it truly is about taking hold of the “NOW” that i am in, enjoying the journey- even when more difficult, that i find the hidden treasures that enrich my life more than i could have hoped for.

i often think of Joseph, a young Jewish boy who was sold into slavery but ended up as a prince in Egypt. his difficult journey taught him how to work with his hands, how to feel empathy for the slave,
how to show mercy for the merciless, how to survive difficulty, the need for true justice, how to discern matters, how to speak before government leaders, how to deal with corruption, how to relate to many classes of people, and many more valuable lessons that made him a great, compassionate and wise leader.

when faced with the “NOW” you are in, mixed with difficulty, resist the temptation of the shortcut…the difficult way may end up being the easier choice and most rewarding.

i invite you to pass this along to your friends, family and co-workers today. there is always room for improvement and it’s awesome to encourage each other along the way.

thanks for stopping by today,

stewart island…the island of tranquility

island of tranquility/insight from a woman's heart

the island of tranquillity is how this destination is described. i am amazed that there is a place in new zealand where life is slower and simpler than what i have experienced since i moved to this south pacific island…yet, stewart island is such a place. approximately 400 people call it home. fishing, aquaculture, tourism and conservation are the main focus for this tight knit community. it doesn’t take long to understand why the inhabitants love this remote island. i would call it a little place but it’s actually the third largest island in new zealand. most of the island is uninhabited, untouched by civilization as most of us know it and it’s beauty is extraordinary.

DSCF9683we boarded the ferry in bluff to cross the strait. spontaneous is one thing i am learning to be in new zealand. we discovered that the ferry only travels once a day since it is winter -so instead of monday, as was planned, we scurried off on sunday. the weather was a little disappointing. when planning the trip, i envisioned sunshine and beauty all around. i was partly right…it was beautiful. i did my usual while traveling on the water…i was looking for a whale. sigh…there were none in sight. one day, i know i will be delighted and catch a glimpse of one of these magnificent fish.
the port was magical. the bay was full of fishing boats, wild life and silence. it was so quiet and peaceful.
Halfmoon Bay/insight from a woman's heart we found accommodation in a little cottage that overlooked the bay with this beautiful view. the only restaurant open on the island was the local “pub”. i am not accustomed to frequenting the pubs so this was quite an experience for me. the room was scattered with fishermen, locals, a few tourists and us. we sat for a few minutes and admired the view.

quiz night host/insight from a woman's heartbefore long, the place was full and buzzing with conversations.

we ordered our food and a woman with an english accent walked up to the table and asked if we were going to participate in the activities for the evening. activities? quiz night! my husband was shrinking in his seat but my sister-in-law and i decided that if we wanted the full Stewart Island experience…we should join in.

trivia is not my strong suit but i did get one question correct…after all, it was an american question-“what is the name of the creature who lived in the “dus-pin” on sesame street?” i needed to clarify what a “dus-pin” was (wouldn’t want to embarrass myself by getting it wrong). i raised my hand and asked, “what is a “dus-pin”…is it the same as a garbage can?” the room roared in laughter and the host replied in her best attempt at the “american accent”, “yes, a “dus-pin” is a gar-bage can.” there you have it, Oscar the grouch lived in the “dus-pin” on sesame street. 1 for dee!
DSCF9720the next morning was more what i imagined…sunshine to compliment the beautiful scenery. the morning air was crisp and salty. i just love the sea air.

DSCF9721i have to pinch myself sometimes when i think about how much i used to love traveling to the coast in america for the chance to enjoy the ocean breezes, deep sea fishing and playing on the beach. living here, i am surrounded by those things i loved so much about beach vacations.DSCF9726aquaculture is especially fascinating to us since we are marine farmers. i grew up in the midwest in the states so i am used to farming communities but aquaculture is such a new concept to me. the mussel and salmon farms were massive and intriguing.
DSCF9806look at all of the birds flying over the salmon farm!

DSCF9723seafood is a special delicacy…we couldn’t resist having a “feed” of oysters…look at the size of those babies!

DSCF9694there are monuments like this one in many of the ports in new zealand. they serve as a reminder of the men who woke on a typical work day morning and headed out to sea but never returned. i had never personally experienced this kind of loss until last year. our friend took some friends out to do some fishing. a rogue wave hit the boat and capsized it. by the time help arrived, he had lost his best friend and oldest son. it was devastating, heart wrenching. this memorial reads:

they shall not grow old as we that are left grow old

age shall not weary them nor years condemn

at the going down of the sun and in the morning

we shall remember them

the sea commands respect. she expects that you not tempt her and when she rages, you most certainly do not want to be in her path of fury.



apparently, birds like the brown kiwi, albatross, penguins and kia can be seen along the landscape of Stewart Island. i was able to photograph seagulls and oyster catchers (the black birds here) but my brother-in-law caught a glimpse of a couple of wee penguins scooting into the water on our last morning. i am told that there are many great white sharks near stewart island as well…those, i am not sure i want to see…at least not up close.


DSCF9908refreshed , it was time to head back home to bluff. i sighed deeply with satisfaction and prepared for the journey home…snapping a few final photos that i could share with my readers.


a boat trailer was lifted to the top of the ferry…we thought they were joking when they said we had to wait until a boat trailer was loaded before we could leave…really?

DSCF9953the ride home was a bit bumpy. actually, it was like being on a roller coaster. i would not see a whale on this trip as the sea was tumultuous. i did sit and watch wave after wave roll in toward the boat like mighty walls of water…then crash against the vessel as if to say we were intruding on it’s space. there was a strong sense that we did not belong in this environment…guests at the mercy of the wind and the sea. i watched the captain. he was calm and sure. i felt confident and turned my thoughts to enjoying the adventurous ride as if i were in an amusement park.

DSCF9894i was thankful for the chance to participate in the charm of the island of tranquillity. i gathered the memories and tucked them away in my heart. ready to resume my day to day schedule, the less simple life traded for the journey, i disembarked from the ferry and headed home.

if you are ever in this part of the world, you might want to put stewart island, the island of tranquillity, on your bucket list. i would recommend visiting during the summer (Dec-Feb) for the best chance at agreeable weather. this little haven will not disappoint….and you can say that you travelled to the end of the earth.

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hope you enjoyed a small tour of the island…


4 ways to improve dependability as a friendship

20130824-214038.jpgit is important to understand that when we give our word to a friend, they depend on us to be reliable. they trust us to follow through with what we commit to do. most often, they will not truly know if they can depend upon our offer until they really need it…

how refreshing to the heart to realize there is a friend they can count on.

to improve dependability as a friend:

1. do not offer help out of emotion. although your heart may be sympathetic, emotion alone is not the best motivation for making an offer you may be unable to follow through with.
2. count the cost before giving your word. your friend will respect honesty.
3. listen. often, your friend needs a safe, caring place to share -they may not need you to do anything more than “listen” to their heart.
4. follow through to the best of your ability.

it truly is refreshing to have a friend you can rely on when you need them…it is also refreshing to be that friend when necessary.

do you have a friend that you have been able to depend on? might be a great time to let them know they are appreciated…

thank you, friends, for being faithful readers!

missing those you love

20130824-171409.jpgto all those who are not close by except in spirit…

today is one of those days that i am feeling very blessed to have those i love in my life…and it’s missing those who are not here close by.

heart to heart, i want you to know that…

you are loved….

you are missed…

you are precious to this heart of mine…

and it’s missing having you here!

8 things to do when your heart is looking back to the past

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sometimes, living in your present circumstances can be like a roller coaster for your heart. the heart longs for the past where the memories feel less-complicated, care-free or painless.

i understand. take it a day, hour, minute at a time.

you will get through this time and be on to the next life phase soon.

1. remember to take care of yourself
2. look for a way to enjoy, relax and rejuvenate in each day
3. take advantage of this time to learn about yourself, what you want going forward & how you refrain from cycling back to this point.
4. reach outward. a great way to get your mind off the situations is helping others (I say that lot)
5. cherish great memories but don’t mourn for them too long…live forward.
6. create fresh memories of some kind everyday…
7. count your blessings…name them one by one!!!!
8. let go when you can…the future awaits

if you need a chuckle at times like these, Maxine on Facebook check her out! she’s a hoot.

have an awesome weekend.

i have in-laws coming so i might be away for a day or two…

see you soon,

helpful hint: trash can liner solution

20130823-102946.jpgi thought i would share a helpful tip today. i am always looking for great solutions to common home problems.

one of my home pet peeves is an overflowing trash can. i often think,” am i the only person in this household that can actually see that the trash can is full and overflowing?”

even when my daughter was at home, we were out numbered 2 to 4 by the blokes. things like toilet seat position, spilled coffee trails and full trash cans were never a problem for them…they never noticed! Lol

now that i am the only female at home now, it hasn’t improved. so, i need to have those helps tips that help me keep things in order.

i like to recycle my plastic grocery bags and lucky for me they fit perfectly into my kitchen trash can. the only problem i had was that with the guys wanting to make sure it held as much as possible before emptying…the bag would give with the weight, the bag would slip off and rubbish would be all over the trash can…what’s the point if the liner if it doesn’t contain the contents.

20130823-104056.jpgi took a knife and slit open the handle portions of the bag as you can see in the photo.

20130823-104341.jpgi then position the bag in my trash can inner.

20130823-104444.jpgnext, i tie the handle portions that i slit open into a tidy knot.

20130823-104942.jpgpresto! i have a tidy, non-slip trash can liner. no mess. trash can solution almost solved…

now, if i can convince the guys to see that it’s full and empty it before it is overflowing!

i’m always interested in helpful hints that’s why i love Pinterest. if you have any ideas that i could put to use, please share them in the comments section below. i’d be happy to share them with my readers as well!

i hope you find my trash can solution helpful.

see you soon!

spring is when life is alive

springtime brings life/insight from a woman's heart

i already know that many of my readers from across the Pacific will find this strange…i live here and i find it strange to be heading into springtime in September. nonetheless, springtime is on it’s way in New Zealand. the sun’s warmth is wrapping itself around the winter-dwellers beckoning life to come forth. there will be yawns from the slumbering ones. reaches of stretching as muscles awake. hibernation is over. the air is infused with the fragrance of spring. life is alive in everything…it’s spring.spring

springtime in my heart

springtime in my heart/insight from a woman's heart

i’ve been feeling like there is springtime in my heart. i have been walking around with a joy in my heart that i just can not explain. i can’t help but think that coming through my previous five months of difficulties has brought a bit of new life to my heart. i feel a sense of accomplishment and expectation.

a little stroll today showed me that springtime is on it’s way in New Zealand which means that i can expect summer to be right around the corner and you know how much i love my summers. soon i will get my little container garden ready for seeding. we are preparing for the new season of baby oysters and i am doing a little de-cluttering. although de-cluttering can be a big job, i love the feeling of standing back and seeing a newly organized area of my home.

here’s a key i have found useful when de-cluttering: set a specific amount of time each day to accomplish an achievable task. once it is complete, stop, enjoy the progress and plan to do more tomorrow. you know what they say, “you have to eat an elephant one bite at a time.” i think organizing works best a little at a time; step by step. even if the task is not that big…it still works.

in addition to the above springtime activities that i am planning, i have been working a little bit on my blog site…a little reorganizing. i must thank all of my readers for being so kind and patient as i have been learning-as-i-go. you have been very gracious. my goal is to produce a quality product that is useful and inspiring. like most things in life growth is required and i am attempting to grow more each day.

i hope you will enjoy some of the changes you see…there will be more to come as i continue my search for blogging knowledge.

thank you for your encouragement, for reading faithfully and walking this journey with me.

my hope for you today is that no matter the season in your region, that you experience a little springtime in your heart as well.