The One You Will Never Lose

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She is always there.

Will you accept her?

Will you love her?

Will you value her?

Will you esteem her?

If you will, there will always be someone in the room who accepts her.

She, my dear, is YOU.

(A Word A Week Challange: Chilled)

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When something is nothing but leads to disappointment

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It’s a beautiful day here in Bluff. I’m heading out the door to spend the day playing in the sun with my grand babies. They have school holidays for the next two weeks. It feels like a lifetime since I’ve seen them with all of “the life stuff” getting in the way of what my heart desires to do. I can’t wait to catch up on some cuddles and kisses.
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Before I headed to town, I had one little errand. I went to pick up one of our staff up at the ferry terminal and the ferry was late. Apparently, the ferry captain spotted whales and being a sight seeing vessel, they stopped to watch them for a while. Whales!?!

Obviously, I am not the whale whisperer because I always seem to be in the wrong place at the wrong time.

In case you are new around here, since moving close to the sea, my biggest dream is to see whales in or near the environment where I live.

And I missed the whole show today. Izzy (our staff member) said the whales put on quite a show. They were dancing and jumping. I wanted every detail. I wanted to know if I took the big walk around the point if I would see them. I was so excited. His reply,”Nawh, don’t bother.” Honestly, I think he was just a little too nonchalant about the whole thing. lol.

He obviously doesn’t understand how important this is to me! Or -(more accurately) he was late for a meeting and being a guy…it was low priority for him. sigh. 😉
deeclarknz.comDo you ever rant about insignificant things?

I say insignificant because in the scope of all of life, it’s not vital to my existence but I am completely passionate. I want this.

I am play ranting, really, and joking. I’m not really upset. I am disappointed.

But I was thinking about how important certain somethings can be to our hearts and when those something’s that are nothings lead to disappointment, we can be tempted to react poorly.

They may not be a big deal to anyone else.

To us…they matter…whatever the level of importance.

Mix in even a smidgen of disappointment and suddenly you would think we were facing a world catastrophe. Isn’t it funny how our hearts can do that to us?

When disappointment shows up, it is important to be careful not to equate the level of emphasis someone else places on our desires as the level of importance they place on us as a person. They won’t even have a clue that the two levels have anything to do with each other….because really they don’t.

We have to remember that the disappointment of not attaining a desire can easily turn into disappointment in a person.

Seeing whales is one of my passions. I go on about it a lot. But not everyone really cares if I see them or not. Oh, don’t get me wrong, they will be thrilled for me when I finally do get the opportunity but most days it’s not high on anyone else’s priority list.

Sometimes out of that frustration, we can turn the disappointment toward the people around us as if they don’t care enough about us. It’s not their fault. It really has nothing to do with what they do or don’t do yet we point the gun of frustration at them.

You might have a desire that is more important than my dilemma. In fact, I’m pretty sure you will.

It is important to you. It is.

And your loved ones care about what is important to you because they care about you. deeclarknz.comAppreciate what you have in your life at this moment.

Today, there is plenty of beauty all around me. It’s spring, the sun is shining and I’ve got the day with my babies.

Keep anticipating. Keep looking forward. Keep hoping.

When something is nothing that leads to disappointment…

keep your perspective so that you don’t take that disappointment out on the ones you love.

Is there something that you are truly passionate about doing? Or maybe you have finally been able to do something you’ve always wanted to do? I’d love to hear about it, you can tell me about it in the comments section. I’m sure it will brighten my day.

While I’m on the subject of perspective, I can definitely be thankful for you today. You stopped by and listened to my heart. Thank you for that!

I hope you have a great day!
D

Flying With Grace

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I love looking out of the window of an airplane

flying high above the earth.

When I look down everything seems so much smaller, insignificant;

quieter, less tense, less hurried.

I imagine grace is the equivalent in my day to day being and living.

Grace is what picks me up

and lifts me high above the “stuff” involved in living

so that I fly in freedom

from anger, sadness, unkindness and un-forgiveness.

Grace provides a smoothness and elegance to my every movement;

courtesy, decency, and respect.

Grace reminds me that I am not perfect.

I need grace.

I am given grace.

Grace restores dignity-

mine and to others.

It allows us to continue to soar.

Sunday Stills, the next challenge: Planes

A heart That Sings

USA Visit 2004 (29)This beautiful place is Coolidge Park in Chattanooga, Tn. In the heart of the city, this park brings much joy to many hearts.

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These people

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The Lord will send His faithful love by day; His song will be with me in the night. -David

My entry for the WordPress Weekly Photo Challenge: Nighttime. Please head over and view the other creative photos.

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spread The Word, Ladies: we Are Enough!

What do you see when you look in the mirror?

Are you among the many women that harshly judge the image they see?

You are not alone. Sadly, too many times, when many of us look in the mirror we do not see the amazing person that the rest of the world sees.

Watch how Mrs. changes the way these women see themselves in the mirror.

Let me know what you think in the comments below.

Also, if you know a woman who does not see the amazing woman she truly is and doesn’t see that she IS ENOUGH…tell her!

Tell her today. She needs to know!

In case, you are that woman…let me just say here and now,

“YOU ARE ENOUGH!”

D

 

Individually, We Are A Drop. Together We Are An Ocean.

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Individually, we are one drop,

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Together, we are an ocean. (Unknown)

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We need each other. We are social beings and we are not meant to be alone.

Our heart has an amazing capacity. Without much effort at all, it refills-with love, compassion, and tenderness. If you don’t believe me, take notice the next time someone makes you angry. We don’t don’t stay angry forever.

Why do you think we try so hard to build walls and fortresses around our hearts?

Fear?

True.

We are afraid of being hurt, yet again.

I know. We desperately want to protect our hearts from pain.

But have you ever noticed how hard we have to work to build the protective walls and fortresses around the heart?

Have you ever thought about it?

It’s so easy to “say” that we will never love again, or no one will ever get that close again…but to maintain that stance actually is a lot of work.

Because, the heart returns to love as naturally as breathing.

Our heart fills to the brim and can’t help but overflow -we need to give AND receive love.

That is why the lack of love is so painful, why we search for others willing to accept the love we have to offer and are disappointed when we feel rejected.

Humans need to give and be given:

care

tenderness

hugs

touch

emotional support

love

companionship–sharing fun and laughter, play, adventure and everyday life

and

help -someone to have our back

Individually, we are a drop but together we are an ocean. Drop by drop, the ocean of love in our hearts streams outward without ever draining itself completely dry. The heart is constantly refilling.

And honestly, isn’t it worth the risk?

I’m not convinced we could stop if we tried. I think, the heart will always seek other hearts to accept its spillage. In fact, I’m pretty sure of it.

Go ahead, let drops begin to trickle outward…until the flow becomes a stream and together we produce an ocean of love.

Someone is thirsty for the compassion you have to give. And a hug is a great place to start (just in case, you need a little help to get going!) 🙂
D
Cee’s Black and White Challenge: Water From A Drop To An Ocean

You’re Only One Swim Away From A Good Mood

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You’re only one swim away from a good mood. (Speedo)

Cee’s Fun Foto Challenge: The Color Blue

Freedom Is Not Free

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For to be free

is not merely

to cast off one’s chains,

but to live

in a way

that respects and enhances

the freedom of others.

Nelson Mandela

Cee’s Which Way Photo Challenge: 2014 #13

3 Simple Steps to Take to Stop Burnout

flowers and beesAre you busy as a bee today?

Nature can be an invaluable teacher of wisdom. For example, the busy little bee shows us a great example of work ethic, productivity, and community. There many interesting habits these little guys have that we can learn from. Did you realise that in the height of honey production season, a bee can literally work itself to death? The normal lifespan for a bee is 9 months during cooler temperatures but in warmer weather when conditions are right for getting their work done…bees will work themselves to death. There is work to be done and they are determined little creatures that are committed to their purpose, even if it costs them their life.

As a business owner, I love to have staff members who have owned the vision, work with us and not just for us, and who are willing to go the extra mile. As well, as the owner, often times I am required to give every last ounce of energy, both physically and mentally, in order to get the job done. It can be exhausting and stressful. Can I get a witness?

Constant stress can leave you feeling disillusioned, helpless, and completely worn out, leading you to burnout. When you’re burned out, problems seem insurmountable, everything looks bleak, and it’s difficult to muster up the energy to care—let alone do something about your situation.

Most of us have days when we feel bored, overloaded, or unappreciated; when the dozen balls we keep in the air aren’t noticed, let alone rewarded; when dragging ourselves out of bed requires the determination of The Hulk. This becomes a problem if these feelings continue without relief.

Relentless stress sends us spiralling into burnout. There is a difference between being stressed and burnout. Stress involves too much: too many demands, too many pressures, and too much effort. Under stress, you still believe that if you get things under control, you will feel better. Hope is alive and pressing for change.

However, burnout is about not enough: feeling empty, loss of motivation, and absence of care (“I just don’t care anymore”). Hope is illusive and you begin to feel like quitting altogether.

Stress feels like you are drowning in your responsibilities; burnout feels like you are dried up and have nothing left to give.

This can appear to sneak up on you but it actually occurs over time when stress relief is hindered. In order to prevent burnout, it is important to recognize symptoms to your health, emotions and behavior.

Things to look for include:
~feeling drained, low immunity, frequent ailments, and changes in appetite or sleep habits.
~sense of failure, feelings of being trapped, feeling defeated, feeling alone, increasingly cynical and negative, heightened frustration, and decreased satisfaction.
~withdrawing from relationships and responsibilities, procrastinating, taking frustrations out on others and substance abuses (food, drugs, alcohol).

If you recognize the symptoms beginning to develop, you can take steps to get life back into a healthier balance. However, if you are already past the breaking point, trying to push through and continue on the destructive path you are on, can cause further damage. Pay attention to your body’s signals and take action.

1. Slow down. Give yourself time to rest, reflect and heal. You may not be able to stop everything but force yourself to take a step back where you can.

2. Ask for support. Friends and family will not be able to “fix” your situation but sharing what you are facing may relieve some of the stress. Opening up builds trust and strengthens relationships. This is important because we all need support at one time or another. When you are feeling better, you will be able to return the favor. If this step does not help, as always, I suggest seeing a professional. It’s important not to try to be “too strong” or in control. True strength is demonstrated when we know our limitations and reach for the help we need.

3. Reevaluate. Burnout is a flashing red light that something is not working. Are you neglecting something important in your life? Balance is vital to healthy wellbeing. Take this opportunity to discover what brings you joy and balance life to include more of it.

I am imagining the focused little bee flying out, gathering, returning, depositing, doing whatever bees do to produce the honey, and then buzzing off to do it all over again. Driving itself further and faster and busier until…well, the picture isn’t pretty. We sometimes do the same thing…adding more and more and more until something has to give. Let the “give” be to what we do instead of to our well being. Yes, I know -there is a lot on your plate. Yes, I realize -it is important. Yes, I understand that you must be responsible.

Just remember, for you to continue offering your brilliant gifts to the world, you must recognize that your most valuable resource for accomplishing your purpose is YOU. Be sure to take responsible care of this important asset. In the long run, you’ll get more accomplished.

Are you busy as a bee? Keep up the good work but don’t over do it! Be wise.

Here are a few quotes to help encourage you when you need added strength:

“He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak.”-Isaiah
“My soul is weary with sorrow; strengthen me according to your word.”-David
“Be our strength every morning, our salvation in time of distress.”-Isaiah

This is my entry for the One Word Photo Challenge: Mustard. Thank you for checking our my contribution and the other amazing entries.

Having fabulous week, my friend.
D