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Cee’s Black and White Photo Challenge: Close-up

One Word Photo Challenge: Copper

 I hope you enjoy my contribution for Jennifer’s One Word Challenge featuring the color 

One Word Photo Challenge: Copper


When We Change The Way We Communicate, We Change Everything

“The biggest communication problem is that we don’t listen to understand. We listen to reply.” ~Unknown “The biggest communication problem is the illusion that it has taken place.” “I know you believe you think you know what I said, but … Continue reading

Lost Puppies and The Miracle of Friendship

deeclarknz.comAt the end of the 90’s, I was struggling. My marriage was failing, I felt lost and I was tremendously lonely in my circumstances. Oddly enough, my ex-husband whispered, to an acquaintance, that he felt I needed a friend. And I did. This young woman walked through my office door, sat down -friendly and welcoming. She was full of compassion, and genuine warmth. That day, she extended an invitation and I accepted. We became friends.

I didn’t know much about friendship. Most of my life I had never lived in one place long enough to develop anything long or lasting. I envied other kids who had known each other since the first year they began attending school. I had much to learn.

I had no freedom of expression. I rarely shared deep emotions. I maintained a consistent protective distance. All the while longing for the very thing I was pushing away. I possessed no self-esteem or confidence or sense of identity even though I worked diligently to produce a well put together exterior to hide that fact.

Once my marriage began failing, often people would tell me that they thought I had it all together and lived a perfect life. That’s the problem with the perfectionist tendencies that consumed my life…they caused me to create a false reality -a facade – to hide away the mess that was on the inside. I was great at hiding. I desperately wanted to be invisible as if that would prevent the pain or ease it in some way. But it didn’t. It never did. In fact, I had an appetite for good things in life: laughter, joy, sunshine, celebration, and happiness.

Instead I was like a wounded puppy afraid of everything I desired. 

 My new friend was thoughtful and sincere. she possessed a curiosity that seemed to drive her to explore new things. I found warmth of heart. I think at the beginning of our relationship she was more like a mentor. Although I didn’t want to be a project or someone for her to help, I was. She began to teach me how to live a full life out of Wisdom. We spent hours praying and searching for practical ways to live a healthy, vibrant life from the best source of Wisdom I had ever found. 

She encouraged me to change the way I thought about life and living in a non-constricting way that was freeing to my spirit, body and mind; relieving repressions.

Wisdom stimulated my creativity, ambition, and drive. Enthusiasm  for life began to fill my heart. I found a willingness to embrace new ideas with enjoyment and a sense of exploration and creative play.

The more that wholeness and well-being began to take place, the more our relationship changed and deepened from mentorship to friendship. We became peers. We challenged each other to be better versions of ourselves. We disagreed at times. We applied forgiveness when necessary. We supported and encouraged each other. And then I moved to New Zealand, some 10,000 kms away. It was a huge adjustment for both of us. 

I miss her in my day to day living. Now, we meet across the miles via technology, sip coffee together, and share our hearts in a different way than when we began. 

This little figurine sits on my dresser reminding me: I don’t feel like a lost puppy anymore and I am blessed with the miracle of friendship.

One Word Photo Challenge: Melon


One Word Photo Challenge: Beaver (Color)

 “Yeah, it’s great to have dreams, but you have to work at them to make the real!”

Be prepared to:

  1. Be industrious, a problem solver, resourceful, and never, ever givie up on your dream. 
  2. Be focused, persistence, disciplined, and open to change. Work diligently.
  3. Be willing to play, enjoy, and have fun. Share quality time with family.
  4. Use the tools you have at hand to create what you need and want, beginning with what you have before you, your special gifts.
  5. Defend what you have worked so hard to build.  Trust but remain discerning.
  6. Take one small step at a time to bring the vision to fruition.
  7. Remain balanced. Set your priorities straight.
  8. Be dedicated, loyalt and commited.

One Word Photo Challenge: Beaver

Your Child’s World of Play  Play is the highest form of learning. ~Albert  Play is our brain’s favorite way of learning.  We don’t stop playing because we grow old. We grow old because we stop playing. ~George Bernard Shawdeeclarknz.comImagination is where your child lives. When you play with him, you enter his world. 

For a parent to be able to spend half an hour of uninterrupted one-on-one time with his or her child is often seen as a luxury, especially in families with more than one child.  However 30-minute blocks of uninterrupted one-on-one time, where you as a parent are giving your undivided attention to your child, can be one of the most beneficial and valuable things you can provide for your child.   


(Cee’s Black and White Photo Challenge: Things Made Of Plastic)