i love you still…i always will

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today was a national holiday.

it was cold, wind blowing, and hailing.

my heart was longing for home…

and in walked my family…

the house filled with warmth and laughter!

nothing burns warm like the embers of love.

D

Be the light in the darkness

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do you remember, as a kid, lying in bed and shaking in your boots because the room was pitch black?

if mom or dad would come in and turn in the light…all was well!

even a small night light would dispel the darkness to settle the fright.

well, sometimes, the world looks dark and frightening.

but there is Light!

if that Light shines brightly from your heart…

darkness, fear and panic can not remain.

let the Light shine!

D

Don’t Give Up

20131024-171432.jpgdon’t stop!

don’t quit!

never give up!!

what looks impossible…

isn’t!

Everest was climbed!

the English Channel was swam! đŸ˜‰

planes were flown!

and so much more…

only because someone believed…

someone kept pushing through…

and you can, too!

create!

lead!

blaze the trail!

give it your best…

get back up and

you can not fail!

D

Be positive and enthusiastic

20131024-153324.jpgwe all know negative people.

but i don’t want to be that person.

i have given myself a goal over the past few months and when I saw Zig Ziglar’s quote, it summed it up for me. my goal is to be as positive as i can be each day no matter the circumstances.

even difficult days are more bearable when i approach it with faith, hope and a positive outlook.

there are times when i have had to shrug my shoulders and understand that i can not change my circumstance. however, i have noticed that i am more creative, i think clearer and generally get through the hardship with my emotions in tact because i am not reverting to hopelessness, negativity or out of control emotions.

sometimes…things change.

sometimes…they don’t…but tomorrow comes and there are brand new opportunities!

sometimes…endurance, long suffering and patience are required.

with every step of the way, implementing my goal has made my life more enjoyable. plus, i think, positive attitudes are very contagious!

the other day, my car was getting a new computer part (that cost me a bundle), i had to spend the day in town and walk everywhere i went.

now that could have been a draining day!

so, i made an adventure out of it.

first, no crying over the repair cost…i chose to drive a car with expensive repair parts. my decision. my consequence. so, i might as well smile as i hand over the cash because i smile hugely when i’m enjoying the drive with the top down! attitude adjusted.

secondly, i decided that because i was in town with no escape…it was perfect timing for visiting all the specialty stores that i never have time to browse through. YAY!

thirdly, i was on foot all day. exercise! i put on my comfy jeans, and tennis shoes -instead of heels and fashion wear! funny story on this note: driving to town, i heard the radio dj talking about non-cool attire. he warned against “sneans” which he explained was blue jeans and white sneakers. i laughed out loud! Yip, i was in sneans! oh well!

back to my blog, i also decided that since i was walking every where that i would take the opportunity to speak to or smile at everyone i passed. i was walking, and talking to people and smiling all day long. the further i walked….the cheerier i became.

it was fabulous! i had a great day!

i could have gone home moaning and grumpy…instead…i was positive and enthusiastic when i arrived home. even the hubby noticed.

so, don’t be that person who never sees the bright side if life! not for other people…

for you!

would you like to except the challenge and see if you can be the most positive and enthusiastic person you know?

if so, get ready to enjoy life more!
D

5 reasons silence is effective

20131024-075908.jpgsometimes, there is just no better solution than silence.

i have found silence to be a very effective tool in my little life toolbox. life skills are valuable and i would categorize this under healthy boundaries.

this one was hard for me to learn since early on in my life i determined in my heart that i would have my say. i thought it was a safety net. instead, often, it was a hole in my bucket. it often caused things to get worse.

of all the subjects to be discussed, proverbs gives many keys of wisdom on the mouth, the words we speak, and how we speak them. it is strange to my mind that not saying anything all can be more effective than saying everything i think at the time.

i have learned that it truly is an effective boundary and more times than not…it works.

reasons why silence is so effective:
1. i am not always right. shock horror! yet true. what works for me will not always work for someone else’s life. each person has their own journey. allowing them to make that journey the best way they can is important.

2. sometimes, people just need someone to listen. i’m a fixer. not everything has to be fixed. there are times when only a listening ear is necessary.

3. the timing is all wrong for what someone needs to hear. maybe someone who trusts me needs
accountability. however, a heart must feel safe, be open and ready to hear. if the timing is wrong i could make matters worse.

4. the person already knows. they may be looking for agreement for a wrong position. i don’t have to give my agreement but i don’t have to spell it out for them either. they already know what to do. giving them time to work it out can be more effective than pushing them.

5. the situation may be too volatile or ridiculous. i used to wonder why grandmothers would shake their head and walk away…there is a good reason. you just can’t put a workable solution into words. my husband is the king of off the wall comments…silliness. i have found myself shaking my head and walking away! he then comes out with, “that’s a pretty silly thing to say, eh?” then I can give it a, “um, yeah!” done. it works for anger as well. although listening to a rant is not easy, my boundary is “if you communicate in a responsible way, i will participate in the conversation. if not, i will be silent until you can.” conflicts are many times fewer than ever. it works with children, too. i tell my grandchildren that when they are ready to calm down we can talk…until then I won’t be talking to them.

there is something about our human nature that does not like to feel like we are being ignored.

i have a sister who is 13 years younger than i am. when she was a toddler and annoying (at least to a teenager), i would tell my other teenage sister to “i-g-n-o-r-e her” and my baby sister would yell, “don’t ik-nore me!”

although, what i am talking about is different than ignoring someone, silence is more effective and gets someone’s attention much better than lectures, nagging, or being pushy. i am talking about using wisdom verses manipulation. you will know the difference! it is often very clear where silence is best served and effective.

there are times when i do not stand in silence: bullying, abuse, and matters of safety. still, wisdom can be applied…maybe fewer words or the proper authority can do the speaking. at any rate, the key is to use wisdom and not go to extremes at one end or the other…you don’t want to say too much but you don’t want to be totally silent either.

have you ever asked yourself, “why did i say?” Or have you said, ” i’m always putting my foot in my mouth”?

if so, you might want to develop a healthy boundary that allows you the ability to sometimes, say nothing at all.

give it a try. practice. see if it works for you like it has for me.

for help, check out the wisdom found in proverbs.

when learning this life skill, i would do word fasts. i would fast (or cut out) all unnecessary words as a way to develop the discipline.

there are many effective ways to practice.

silence truly is powerful!

D

Quiet Moments of Appreciation

20131023-075945.jpgnature takes my breath away.

the vivid colors…

the majestic mountains…

it helps me realize that there is always something bigger, better, more beautiful just on the horizon.

be sure to take time today to appreciate the beauty around you!

it’s good for the soul.
D

I would like to introduce the photography work of a new friend. I met Jakob last year when he was traveling through NZ. He was our couch surfer guest when we had very meagre offerings for accommodation. He is a bright young man from Germany. Jakob has just given me permission to use some of his beautiful photos to share with you all. We hope you enjoy. Thank you, Jakob. Your work is amazing!

One Way Peace Is Lost

20131022-204517.jpghow valuable is peace?

tranquillity

calmness

restfulness

quietude

silence

stillness

nothing missing, nothing broken

i value peace highly in my life.

i used to trade it at the drop of a hat…

not any more.

i need tranquility more than i need to be right.

i need calmness more than i need my way.

i need stillness more than i need to give way to my angry feelings.

i want lasting relationship more than i want strife.

a consistent atmosphere of peace requires preparation.

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you must prepare your heart and mind.

you must prepare yourself with the proper tools; wisdom, Truth and commitment.

no matter what you face, if you refuse to trade your peace…if you refuse to give up your peace…
you have a mighty weapon to use against whatever it is you are facing.

Paul reminded the people who lived in Phillipi that there is peace that passes all understanding and it will guard ( keep guard over) your heart and mind…

peace is like a guard standing watch over your mind and heart…

just think of all the things that could not even get near to your heart because peace is standing there preventing it entering your heart… Or mind!

for me,

that makes peace very valuable!