How to Live Life Out Loud

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Live life out loud:

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Pour the light of love over everyone you love.

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Have the courage to be creative.

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Color your world.

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Look on the bright side.

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Think happy thoughts.

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Keep your face turned toward the sunSon.

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Make amazing things happen.

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“Life is a great big canvas and you should throw all the paint you can on it.” -Danny Kaye

Start with yellow.

Keeping colouring, my friend. It’s not just for kids, you know.
D

Cee’s Fun Foto Challenge: Yellow

How To Prevent Failed Relationships

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How can two walk together unless they agree?

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Relationship is the hardest work you will ever do. Don’t you think? Two or more people with differing cultural, family, traditional, spiritual and economical values, opinions and aspirations attempt to walk together. We join others in relationship for sports, business, hobbies, community, life and a variety of other reasons. Once we make the decision we want to work together…the fun begins as long as we keep a clear focus on why we wanted to be together in the first place.

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Otherwise, we loose our minds in craziness. Have you ever noticed how purely ridiculous things can become when we attempt to walk together and don’t agree? That’s the point we are in danger of no longer walking together.

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Agreement is the key. Do we always agree? NO!!!! When we don’t agree, what then?

IMG_1860.JPGWhen I ask that question, if your mind only goes to the differences people have in the areas I mentioned above, you most likely will never reach agreement.

Agreement is harmony. The sound of a beautiful melody or symphony. The dictionary used the word accordance. A chord is made up of differing notes put together to make music. Accordance happens when we take our individual differences in opinion and feeling and make them work together for the relationship. I like the thought of that. But then, again, that is the work of relationship…and remember I have already said that its the hardest work you will ever do. However, the reward of walking together is much easier on the heart then a break-up and heartache.

Did you know that another meaning for agreement is consistency? Everyone who has taken to hard work understands consistency and its benefits. My home town, Chattanooga, just hosted an Ironman Competition. The preparation for entering the race commands hours, days, weeks and even months of hard, consistent training.

We know this concept.

We’ve got this down pat in many areas of our lives.

We consistently get up day in and day out and head to work. There are days we want to cover our heads with the blankets but we like eating more, so we get up.

Speaking of eating, I consistently feed my face. To be honest, I’m not always thinking about the health of my body. Somedays it’s all about the chocolate. Nonetheless, I am consistent to fuel my body because I want to stay alive. I’m not crazy about the alternative.

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Here’s the thing, we understand the importance of consistency in most everything we do. We have practiced it over and over again. Really, we are agreeing to do what it takes in those areas of our lives to make things work. I think, as hard as it is, it’s also that simple. Looking at the signals, coming to terms together on the best course of action and then doing it together to ensure the best or desired result.

The individuals in a relationship may be the greatest stars in the world, but if they don’t work together, they won’t succeed.

Relationship is an ever growing process. It develops in the ups and downs, when you’ve suffered together, cried together, and laughed together.

Succeeding in relationship requires that the people involved recognize that they have responsibilities as well as rights. Asking only what’s in it for me means we forget our destinies are bound together. Without commitment to others, without love, charity, duty, and consistency (agreement) we destine ourselves to failure.

Together we can face any challenges as deep as the sea and as high as the sky.

Do you know the saying, “Birds of a feather flock together?” Let me just say this, if you are constantly entering bad relationships check your feathers. If you possess a hurting heart full of pain, rejection, anger, bitterness, and hatred, you will notice those types of birds flocking toward you. Get well. Search for wholeness…fix those things. Believe me, I know you may not have the energy, feel brave enough or know where to begin. I have been in exactly the place you are sitting. It’s excruciatingly painful. It’s exhausting. It’s frustrating. And it’s numbing. However, wholeness is better. You will need time. You will need support. You will need help. You will need courage.

But YOU can do this.

You must do this to break the continuum of bad relationships.

Anytime we come together with collective intention, it’s a powerful thing.

When we work smarter not harder, we can argue real life issues together and solve problems. Both sides who are willing to work together will make great progress.

And isn’t the the real reason we gather together anyway? To make life better, stronger, happier?

Let’s keep our focus. Let’s accomplish long lives of love, hope, and joy.

Start by walking together in agreement. I know you can!
D

One Word Photo Challenge: Fushsia

Flying With Grace

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I love looking out of the window of an airplane

flying high above the earth.

When I look down everything seems so much smaller, insignificant;

quieter, less tense, less hurried.

I imagine grace is the equivalent in my day to day being and living.

Grace is what picks me up

and lifts me high above the “stuff” involved in living

so that I fly in freedom

from anger, sadness, unkindness and un-forgiveness.

Grace provides a smoothness and elegance to my every movement;

courtesy, decency, and respect.

Grace reminds me that I am not perfect.

I need grace.

I am given grace.

Grace restores dignity-

mine and to others.

It allows us to continue to soar.

Sunday Stills, the next challenge: Planes

A heart That Sings

USA Visit 2004 (29)This beautiful place is Coolidge Park in Chattanooga, Tn. In the heart of the city, this park brings much joy to many hearts.

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These people

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The Lord will send His faithful love by day; His song will be with me in the night. -David

My entry for the WordPress Weekly Photo Challenge: Nighttime. Please head over and view the other creative photos.

D

Individually, We Are A Drop. Together We Are An Ocean.

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Individually, we are one drop,

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Together, we are an ocean. (Unknown)

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We need each other. We are social beings and we are not meant to be alone.

Our heart has an amazing capacity. Without much effort at all, it refills-with love, compassion, and tenderness. If you don’t believe me, take notice the next time someone makes you angry. We don’t don’t stay angry forever.

Why do you think we try so hard to build walls and fortresses around our hearts?

Fear?

True.

We are afraid of being hurt, yet again.

I know. We desperately want to protect our hearts from pain.

But have you ever noticed how hard we have to work to build the protective walls and fortresses around the heart?

Have you ever thought about it?

It’s so easy to “say” that we will never love again, or no one will ever get that close again…but to maintain that stance actually is a lot of work.

Because, the heart returns to love as naturally as breathing.

Our heart fills to the brim and can’t help but overflow -we need to give AND receive love.

That is why the lack of love is so painful, why we search for others willing to accept the love we have to offer and are disappointed when we feel rejected.

Humans need to give and be given:

care

tenderness

hugs

touch

emotional support

love

companionship–sharing fun and laughter, play, adventure and everyday life

and

help -someone to have our back

Individually, we are a drop but together we are an ocean. Drop by drop, the ocean of love in our hearts streams outward without ever draining itself completely dry. The heart is constantly refilling.

And honestly, isn’t it worth the risk?

I’m not convinced we could stop if we tried. I think, the heart will always seek other hearts to accept its spillage. In fact, I’m pretty sure of it.

Go ahead, let drops begin to trickle outward…until the flow becomes a stream and together we produce an ocean of love.

Someone is thirsty for the compassion you have to give. And a hug is a great place to start (just in case, you need a little help to get going!) 🙂
D
Cee’s Black and White Challenge: Water From A Drop To An Ocean

You’re Only One Swim Away From A Good Mood

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You’re only one swim away from a good mood. (Speedo)

Cee’s Fun Foto Challenge: The Color Blue

Freedom Is Not Free

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For to be free

is not merely

to cast off one’s chains,

but to live

in a way

that respects and enhances

the freedom of others.

Nelson Mandela

Cee’s Which Way Photo Challenge: 2014 #13

3 Simple Steps to Take to Stop Burnout

flowers and beesAre you busy as a bee today?

Nature can be an invaluable teacher of wisdom. For example, the busy little bee shows us a great example of work ethic, productivity, and community. There many interesting habits these little guys have that we can learn from. Did you realise that in the height of honey production season, a bee can literally work itself to death? The normal lifespan for a bee is 9 months during cooler temperatures but in warmer weather when conditions are right for getting their work done…bees will work themselves to death. There is work to be done and they are determined little creatures that are committed to their purpose, even if it costs them their life.

As a business owner, I love to have staff members who have owned the vision, work with us and not just for us, and who are willing to go the extra mile. As well, as the owner, often times I am required to give every last ounce of energy, both physically and mentally, in order to get the job done. It can be exhausting and stressful. Can I get a witness?

Constant stress can leave you feeling disillusioned, helpless, and completely worn out, leading you to burnout. When you’re burned out, problems seem insurmountable, everything looks bleak, and it’s difficult to muster up the energy to care—let alone do something about your situation.

Most of us have days when we feel bored, overloaded, or unappreciated; when the dozen balls we keep in the air aren’t noticed, let alone rewarded; when dragging ourselves out of bed requires the determination of The Hulk. This becomes a problem if these feelings continue without relief.

Relentless stress sends us spiralling into burnout. There is a difference between being stressed and burnout. Stress involves too much: too many demands, too many pressures, and too much effort. Under stress, you still believe that if you get things under control, you will feel better. Hope is alive and pressing for change.

However, burnout is about not enough: feeling empty, loss of motivation, and absence of care (“I just don’t care anymore”). Hope is illusive and you begin to feel like quitting altogether.

Stress feels like you are drowning in your responsibilities; burnout feels like you are dried up and have nothing left to give.

This can appear to sneak up on you but it actually occurs over time when stress relief is hindered. In order to prevent burnout, it is important to recognize symptoms to your health, emotions and behavior.

Things to look for include:
~feeling drained, low immunity, frequent ailments, and changes in appetite or sleep habits.
~sense of failure, feelings of being trapped, feeling defeated, feeling alone, increasingly cynical and negative, heightened frustration, and decreased satisfaction.
~withdrawing from relationships and responsibilities, procrastinating, taking frustrations out on others and substance abuses (food, drugs, alcohol).

If you recognize the symptoms beginning to develop, you can take steps to get life back into a healthier balance. However, if you are already past the breaking point, trying to push through and continue on the destructive path you are on, can cause further damage. Pay attention to your body’s signals and take action.

1. Slow down. Give yourself time to rest, reflect and heal. You may not be able to stop everything but force yourself to take a step back where you can.

2. Ask for support. Friends and family will not be able to “fix” your situation but sharing what you are facing may relieve some of the stress. Opening up builds trust and strengthens relationships. This is important because we all need support at one time or another. When you are feeling better, you will be able to return the favor. If this step does not help, as always, I suggest seeing a professional. It’s important not to try to be “too strong” or in control. True strength is demonstrated when we know our limitations and reach for the help we need.

3. Reevaluate. Burnout is a flashing red light that something is not working. Are you neglecting something important in your life? Balance is vital to healthy wellbeing. Take this opportunity to discover what brings you joy and balance life to include more of it.

I am imagining the focused little bee flying out, gathering, returning, depositing, doing whatever bees do to produce the honey, and then buzzing off to do it all over again. Driving itself further and faster and busier until…well, the picture isn’t pretty. We sometimes do the same thing…adding more and more and more until something has to give. Let the “give” be to what we do instead of to our well being. Yes, I know -there is a lot on your plate. Yes, I realize -it is important. Yes, I understand that you must be responsible.

Just remember, for you to continue offering your brilliant gifts to the world, you must recognize that your most valuable resource for accomplishing your purpose is YOU. Be sure to take responsible care of this important asset. In the long run, you’ll get more accomplished.

Are you busy as a bee? Keep up the good work but don’t over do it! Be wise.

Here are a few quotes to help encourage you when you need added strength:

“He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak.”-Isaiah
“My soul is weary with sorrow; strengthen me according to your word.”-David
“Be our strength every morning, our salvation in time of distress.”-Isaiah

This is my entry for the One Word Photo Challenge: Mustard. Thank you for checking our my contribution and the other amazing entries.

Having fabulous week, my friend.
D

An Appetite For Solitude

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A heart alone doesn’t always mean lonely.

Lonely is painful.

Solitude is quiet; the only secure place in a noisy world.

The perfect getaway is seclusion.

Like the wonderful silence just before the dawn,

or the quiet and calm of an ending storm.

The hush of a country road at night,

Or the moment after a door closes tight.

A place of gentle repose,

-a chance to cultivate and recompose

a quiet heart .

Solitude expresses the glory of being

as simply and honestly as you can manage.

Renewing your strength and taking advantage

of companionship: first, just you -your insignificant self,

and then God, as continued moments shift your focus

to sensing his acceptance and grace.

It is a most beautiful place if you listen carefully.

The trouble is not really in being alone; but in being lonely.

And lonely, sometimes, is a fresh appetite for solitude.

D

One Word Photo Challenge: Cerulean