as a grandmother of two beautiful little beings, i am interested in their development and well-being even though i am not totally responsible for it.today, while using my own technology, i saw a question posed by Momastery on facebook (btw, if you are not following them on social media, you should!) the question was this: are there any parents out there who have created a system that both honors the importance of technology in kid’s lives while also honoring the importance of healthy boundaries around their technology use?we live in a technology age. personally, i understand there are dangers (and if i forget, my husband is more than willing to remind me…often). yet, the dangers can be managed in many of the same ways we manage other potential dangers; training, accountability, communication and love. technology is a tool.just as all children need to learn how to handle other household tools, they need to be taught how to use technology, including how it works, how to take care of it, and respect for appropriate verses inappropriate uses at age appropriate levels.i may allow my granddaughter to sit in our boat and pretend to drive it; however, i remain close by, remind her what is appropriate to touch and what is not, and i am watchful for potential dangers such as falling-so that i can offer help if necessary.there is often concern that technology and media should be limited, but what matters most is how it is used. what is the content? is it being used in an intentional manner? is it developmentally appropriate? if a parent is confident with the answer to these questions, limits may become as unnecessary as on block time or book reading or dramatic play or manipulatives or sports. we don’t tell a child that his 10 minutes of puzzle making or reading for the week is up.it is important to be digitally literate and comfortable enough with the technology and the child development to know how to be appropriate, what’s effective, and what to avoid. adult involvement and interaction is as vital as it is when children are learning to cook, clean or even ride a bike safely. as children grow older, teaching skills for making wise choices, managing time and recognising risk help children who are becoming young adults learn to value balance in their life.trust your instincts. you know your child and if you think that a child’s technology time is limiting interactions with other kids or you feel a change of activity is called for, turn it off and nudge him/her in new directions. however, it’s also up to the adult to understand the child’s personality and disposition and to understand if technology is one of the ways the child chooses to interact with the world. technology skills can be as comprehensive, challenging and rewarding as the passion for sports, performing arts or writing. technology is an amazing form of creativity-it just has not reached it’s place of acceptance as an art or creative form.my grandson has learned many skills by using various technologies: not to give up because something is difficult or beyond his ability. when he comes to me to work a game through to the next highest level because he is unable to, i remind him of others times that his perservering has helped him to conquer the skill. he has learned to problem solve on his own and is learning to manage emotions like frustration and anger. my granddaughter’s favorite technology is YouTube tutorials on baking and decorating cakes. at age 6, sometimes she gives me instruction when we’re baking together. she enjoys watching but then can’t wait to practice in the kitchen. i couldn’t be prouder. it’s fun to watch them both.
finally, cut yourself some slack. sometimes, technology is also a useful tool for adults because parents have to make lunch, and need time to take a shower.
in situations like that, it is the adult’s job to make the technology time more valuable and interactive by asking questions and connecting a child’s virtual experience with real-life experiences in his/her world.training children to properly use technology may be new to most of us; however, we are pretty instinctive when it comes to what is best for our children. technology is and has been changing our world in amazing ways. learn together. keep your family’s life goals in focus and be creative.we honor the importance of technology in kid’s lives in the same way we honor other important skills we are equipping our children with…
we train and guide them
we communicate and talk to them about the family’s values
we hold them accountable and protect them
we interact and engage with them
we demonstrate balance by example
we love them
then we watch them blossom, grow, improve, excel, and enjoy!
in my life, gratitude accesses joy.
joy is a gift that produces brilliance from deep within my heart and soul.
as a young woman, my mom used to tell me that i may not always be happy about my circumstances but that i could be content.
contentment nurtures and guards gratitude.
as women, we can find ourselves in a state of wanting…
to be less sad…
to be more beautiful…
to be more alive…
to attain more of the things we want when we are not satiated from within.
when i find myself drifting in this direction, i have learned the importance of getting alone with my heart.
time for a heart to heart.
i’ve even stood in front of my mirror so i could look myself in the eye, as i would a friend.
i direct my thoughts toward gratitude…
for all that i am and was created to be…
And for all that i have divinely been blessed with.
the warmth of the sun on my face makes me happy but unfortunately summer is short lived in NZ. therefore, i am grateful for warm hugs, an electric blanket, and new warm jacket my daughter blessed me with this week.
watermelon and American style pickles make me happy but are difficult to source where i live. therefore, i grateful for every sweet bite i enjoyed on my vacation last month.
getting along with my husband makes me happy but sometimes we disagree and must work together to restore peace between us. therefore, i am grateful that God brought love into my life and that i have someone special with whom i share my life.
gratitude and joy colors our world with real happiness.
happiness paints our world with a brightness that shines from deep within our heart-the core of our being.
this is what happiness means to me.
it is a gift from God
and i am forever grateful.
how about you? how grateful are you for all of who you are and all that you have?
answering this question with require a deeper look into your heart where your emotions dwell. discovering the answer will lead you toward real happiness. happiness that can not be easily stolen.
i’m happy that you stopped by today!
i would greatly appreciate it if you could give me a few minutes of your day to answer a question.
what does real happiness look like to you?
take a few minutes to look inside your heart…
think about all aspects of your life…
when do you feel the most harmony within…
what brings satisfaction to your life…
real happiness requires less than you think…
what do you think?
what does real happiness look like?
i can’t wait to hear your answers!
thank you for the favor! you are awesome!
dear reader, you have heard me say this time and again.
life is a flow
it is constant motion and change.
what makes it great, worthwhile and meaningful…
…is the courage to find the right direction and keep moving.
parts of the journey will be smooth sailing, others not so much.
know where you are going and keep sailing.
we are midway through this year. you may have set your anchor because you feel you’ve lost your way. find your true North, pull up the anchor and focus on where you wanted to end up in 2014. don’t give up, you still have time to get where you are going to make this a great year in your life!
what goal(s) did you have set for this year that you can still move toward? share them with me-comment below. if you know someone who could use a gentle reminder to keep moving, give them directions so they can stop by insight from a woman’s heart.
happy sailing, (now get moving -there’s no time to waste),