My cousin spent today helping an infuriating, older neighbour tear down a fence. It was something her neighbour probably would not have reciprocated. She also had to wade through plants that were not good for her allergies. When completed, her young daughter noticed and commented about her labour of love.
My cousin stated: “My hives are calming down, Ill be fine and Sarah’s response makes it worth it. She said, “Mommy, why we’re you helping her when she doesn’t even like us?” I explained it’s the neighborly thing to do. She replied, “But Mom I heard her talking to you in a nice voice. Is she going to be nice now? Will she be a friend?” Good life lesson to learn when I told her that wasn’t why I did it and she probably will not be a friend. Some people are just the way they are.”
Is it really worth being nice to someone who isn’t easy to be nice to?
I think the answer is definitely, “yes.”
People are all different, have differing value systems and differing historical stories that cause them to be who they are.
Reacting like someone acts causes me to be disloyal to myself and who I really am. I most enjoy being kind, generous, loving and giving. That’s when I’m happiest within.
I find myself frustrated having to live on “their” playing field. So, I came to the realisation that revenge is not sweet for me. Being “me” is…therefore, I live fully out of my heart and appreciate that they are different than me.
I don’t expect them to be me (even when it’s hard) or give more than they are capable of giving.
It’s taken many years to reach this place…
I really despise my “mean Dee” more than I despise actions coming my way.
I also believe love never fails (even if I can’t see the good effects).
The question is, “who do I want to be and what type of journey do I want to travel?”
Answering that question for myself helps me set my standard of behaviour. It is not an easy journey and it takes maturity.
Which do you prefer?
One perpetuates drama and the other brings inner satisfaction.
If you haven’t reached the goal of not allowing circumstances to turn your world upside down, keep going. Keep applying purposeful actions to bring you to the place in your journey that you most desire.
Have a great day!