Individually, We Are A Drop. Together We Are An Ocean.

Individually, we are one drop,

Together, we are an ocean. (Unknown)

We need each other. We are social beings and we are not meant to be alone.

Our heart has an amazing capacity. Without much effort at all, it refills-with love, compassion, and tenderness. If you don’t believe me, take notice the next time someone makes you angry. We don’t don’t stay angry forever.

Why do you think we try so hard to build walls and fortresses around our hearts?



We are afraid of being hurt, yet again.

I know. We desperately want to protect our hearts from pain.

But have you ever noticed how hard we have to work to build the protective walls and fortresses around the heart?

Have you ever thought about it?

It’s so easy to “say” that we will never love again, or no one will ever get that close again…but to maintain that stance actually is a lot of work.

Because, the heart returns to love as naturally as breathing.

Our heart fills to the brim and can’t help but overflow -we need to give AND receive love.

That is why the lack of love is so painful, why we search for others willing to accept the love we have to offer and are disappointed when we feel rejected.

Humans need to give and be given:





emotional support


companionship–sharing fun and laughter, play, adventure and everyday life


help -someone to have our back

Individually, we are a drop but together we are an ocean. Drop by drop, the ocean of love in our hearts streams outward without ever draining itself completely dry. The heart is constantly refilling.

And honestly, isn’t it worth the risk?

I’m not convinced we could stop if we tried. I think, the heart will always seek other hearts to accept its spillage. In fact, I’m pretty sure of it.

Go ahead, let drops begin to trickle outward…until the flow becomes a stream and together we produce an ocean of love.

Someone is thirsty for the compassion you have to give. And a hug is a great place to start (just in case, you need a little help to get going!) 🙂
Cee’s Black and White Challenge: Water From A Drop To An Ocean

the path fear follows

20140309-231252.jpgthe unknown
and the unpredictable…the what “if”s…maybe “i can’t”s…the different…

all strike a chord of fear deep in the heart.

this chord sings out that we are helplessness…that our dreams, our future and even our very survival is under threat.

illusive threats pierce through our hopes and frustration sets in.

frustration is enraging; igniting the fiery emotion…anger.

anger is powerful, swift and blinds the heart to reason. anger causes us to want to fight leading us to aggressive behaviours.

but anger must have fuel…it will fizzle with time…and hatred is the fuel that keeps anger burning.

i have found that hate is like cancer. if unattended, it grows deep roots within the heart crowding out love.

hatred alienates us from each other. the heart, dark with hatred, closes in on itself and is no longer capable of fully opening up to embrace love of any kind.

withdrawal from love causes suffering which takes many forms; unforgiveness, regret, discontent, resentment and apathy.

suffering places us back to the unknown, thus reverting to fear…the cycle continues.

we fear a broken heart…

when we fear having our heart broken, it’s not so much about the pain as it is the thought that if broken we can never be whole again.

the anger begins with someone who has broken our heart in the past but swiftly moves toward hatred of potential heart breakers. a closed, isolated heart suffers in loneliness…fearing it will never find it’s deepest desire again.

we fear each other…

we fear that as we observe another person’s creativity (sometimes their very “being”) that there will be no room left for who we are or what we have to give.

fear is birthed in our thoughts and we must be courageous enough to look at it head on…sometimes shaking in our boots…and render it powerless. we must strip fear of it’s power before it takes root.

fear is a lie.

truth, love and hope know no fear…

they blossom in the heart making no room for fear to reside.

love is a lifeline

20140225-150101.jpgyou know “that person”, don’t you? i’m sure you do, we all have a least one. that person that is not very loveable.

seriously, i am the person who loves all the ideals of love. i love the warmth and comfort of love. let me just snuggle and nestle in -my heart will sing!

however, life is not full of ideal love.

in fact, before you finish your first cup of coffee some mornings, you might be jolted into the reality that love is not for the faint hearted and that there are unlovable qualities in people.

but here’s the thing, “good” and “bad” behavior is really more about the condition of the heart and soul. behaviors aren’t the person.

maturity is required to love the unlovable (or anyone for that matter) and see that person as loveable and redeemable.

dealing with someone who is drowning in a difficult situation or who is in desperate need of help with their own survival can be exasperating.

wreckless words and behaviors throw out after-shocks that are painful to the heart.

“that person” needs a lifeline; an anchored line of hope and help that they can depend on.

love is the lifeline.

love is the ray of light that penetrates deep.

as a lifeline, love does not always feel warm and comfortable. to “that person” accountable/tough love can feel anything but comfortable.

but, people (including “that person”) need something they can take hold of and hold onto while they journey toward a successful outcome even when the successful outcome looks impossible.

it’s far too easy to label those around us as an enemy, adversary or a “write-off” and walk away.

if our choices define who we are and what we are made of, then committing to the most difficult act of love shows strength of character.

did you know that love and forgiveness exploit weakness?

it does!

we’ve all heard the stories of how someone with a cold, hard-hearted and unloving defence had their position weakened when consistently, faithfully confronted with love.

love never fails.

it’s love that keeps us inseparable.

it’s love that removes fear.

it’s love that trusts “that person” to find their way out of desperate situations.

exhausting? frustrating? painful?

sure it is. that’s why it’s called self-sacrificing.

but it’s the very reason someone steps out in the face of danger, sits up all night with an ill child, endures unspeakable tantrums, rescues an addicted loved one or puts their life on the front lines of war.

we lay down our lives for the sake of love when others tell us we are crazy.

we know in our hearts that within “that person” in need our love…there exists something worth redemption.

redeeming love is equally difficult to accept and to offer.

i know in my own life that there have been people who have provided redeeming love to help me through my desperate life situations.

we know that because we’ve been redeemed by love that enduring with love is worth the pain.

so, don’t give up.

help “that person” understand that they should reach out, take hold and hold on!

Francine Rivers’ book Redeeming Love is an excellent portrayal of the struggles and victories associated with loving someone out of a difficult situation.

whether you are the one offering love or the one in need of a lifeline, may i suggest you read it as a source of encouragement?

the person committed to love in this way will need faith, loyal friends, strong moral values and courage to sacrifice himself for greater good.

are you up to the challenge?

come on, take a deep breath and get back in there…”that person” might be depending on you to throw them a lifeline.



“Grief can destroy you –or focus you. You can decide a relationship was all for nothing if it had to end in death, and you alone. OR you can realize that every moment of it had more meaning than you dared to recognize at the time, so much meaning it scared you, so you just lived, just took for granted the love and laughter of each day, and didn’t allow yourself to consider the sacredness of it. But when it’s over and you’re alone, you begin to see that it wasn’t just a movie and a dinner together, not just watching sunsets together, not just scrubbing a floor or washing dishes together or worrying over a high electric bill. It was everything, it was the why of life, every event and precious moment of it. The answer to the mystery of existence is the love you shared sometimes so imperfectly, and when the loss wakes you to the deeper beauty of it, to the sanctity of it, you can’t get off your knees for a long time, you’re driven to your knees not by the weight of the loss but by gratitude for what preceded the loss. And the ache is always there, but one day not the emptiness, because to nurture the emptiness, to take solace in it, is to disrespect the gift of life.”
― Dean Koontz, Odd Hours

love is for everyone

i hope you have a fantastic Valentine’s Day!

i also hope that you are not wasting one minute on feeling lonely, depressed or down if you do not have a special Valentine because…

it’s about love…

and love is available more than one day a year…

all around you are people who love you and celebrate the fact that you are dear to their heart!

Please remember, you are loved!

Happy Valentine’s Day!

Give and Give Again

deeclarknz.comit is far too easy to live as though we are invincible…as though there will always be numerous opportunities before us.

why do we wait for the last opportunities to emphasize value on what we might be faced with loosing?

being in only this moment-not regretting, grieving or obsessing over the past; not worrying, being anxious or fearful of the future-but fully living, appreciating and dwelling in this moment and all its splendor would change so much about our lives.

we would forgive and give more.

we would love more deeply.

so, why not?

we should!

i should!

it would require focus.

probably a lot of focus.

yet, it’s doable….

Love, forgive and give as if you only have this one chance…

What Nelson Mandela Believed About Love and Hate


i love this!

it’s so true.

no one is born filled with hatred…we teach it to one another.

love is powerful.

love is healing.

love answers so many if life’s dilemmas.

as my friend, Jeannie, posted today on Facebook with this photo:

R.I.P. Nelson Mandela.

You taught us much about hope, perseverance and forgiveness.

Thank you.

i quoted Jeannie because i couldn’t have said it better myself. (Thank you, Jeannie, for your thoughtful heart, encouraging spirit and inspiring life! you cheer my heart almost daily…and you should know that you make a difference in my world!)

it’s the Christmas season and we are focused on an atmosphere of love…

may we all look beyond the outer package and see the heart with eyes of love…

and honor the examples that have gone before us to show us the way (even in the face of much adversity).


(i could not find photo credit. as always, if anyone can provide information…i will be happy to provide appropriate credit).