sometimes you get yourself into unwise situations. if that is the case, all is not lost. harder but not lost. proverbs 6 begins by siting the example of co-signing a loan or becoming a guarantor.
- realise that you have trapped yourself with your own mouth (ouch!)
- realise you have given some of the power of your life over to the person you helped (ouch!)
- humble yourself (no need to get mean…you did this to yourself- i have done this a few times. what i thought was a heart of compassion turned out to bite hard).
- beg…(not demand) the person to pay off the bill so you can be released.
most decisions can be reversed. the key is preparation prior to making decisions that will impact your life. sounds like my “trauma plan” philosophy. be prepared.
proverbs 6 goes on to talk about preparation. have a look at the ant. the way of an ant is a wise way to live.
- there is no one over the ant giving it step by step directions of what to do to live well. instinct is a fabulous tool.
- the ant prepares…gathers it’s supplies well before they are needed.
the key is not to waste your time when things are good. that is the crucial time for preparing and gathering knowledge, insight and wisdom…not sleeping and playing in the sun. we all know that all work and no play is not wise; however, all play and no preparation is worse. the result of the latter is you could end up with your life being stolen from you..slowly but surely leaving you helpless. calamity is a crushing weight that leaves the heart broken. i don’t know about you but i can name a few situations in my life that fit this description perfectly.
being clever, side stepping the issues, and attempting to get around doing things the right way my seem cunning at the time but those tactics deceive the heart into thinking success can be achieved when only destruction is ahead. the end result is a crushed heart.
7 of those practices look like this
- a proud approach-overestimate yourself and underestimate others. this is such a vital key for bulllies and control freaks. do not fall into this trap. ummm…it doesn’t work. it might for a while but once the person you are attempting to control gains their right state of mind…you loose out.
- lying. we all know the web that gets created when you decide to present half truths, lies or leave out critical facts as a protective measure. it gets messy real fast.
- thinking and planning ways to get around the situation instead of hitting the issue head on. we can think up some rubbish, can’t we? does it ever work…i can’t think of any examples.
- trying to pin the mess on someone else…blaming…shucking responsiblity. trying to deflect the spotlight from your responsiblity is an age old tactic. the fact of the matter is that truth seems to have a way of surfacing. truth rarely stays in the dark.
- pitting one against the other. playing the middleman and getting two parties at each other’s throat shifts the focus but is a dispicable tactic. don’t…just don’t do it.
the heart is the key storage unit for wisdom. the heart must be capable of using wisdom or maybe it’s a God-given instinct that it possesses (like the ant). grab hold of wisdom, insight and the knowledge (of how to do things the right way) and refuse…reFUSE…REFUSE to be tricked into thinking any other way is acceptable.
Foolishness seduces you. fools you. tricks you.
i think we’ll look at that in my next post…this one has gone long.
to summerize, making wise decisions that keep your heart and life safe are easy to make if you are prepared with the right tools.
here’s my practical example. i’ve suffered many abuses along my journey (& maybe-probably-you have, too). one of the things i attributed it to was that i didn’t protect myself by speaking up- having a voice. therefore, i conceived a plan in my heart that i would speak up for myself no matter what. fair enough, right? what I didn’t expect was that in doing so i often spoke out of disrespect (especially when men were involved). did you know that the number one need of women is love? i knew it because i am a woman. did you know the number one need of a man is respect? i obviously didn’t. ☺ so, i had my voice spouting its venom to my husband coated in disrespect and man, did it back fire! when i adjusted my approach (not my goal of having a voice) to a respectful way of dealing with issues…i have been amazed at how many of the issues, i deemed vital to resolve, have been. I might add, they have been resolved without confrontation. dah! what do the Pinterest pinners say? “why didn’t I think of that?” because foolishness is seductive…and preparing for life with understanding is wise!
well, i lost this post yesterday because of a dumb mistake but rethinking it..i’m glad…😍
i hope you find this helpful! let me know if it was. i do enjoy hearing your kind feedback!
Thank you for your post. Did you lose all the material and had to re-type everything from memory hence getting a “different” but the same post? If so, I think it turned out quite well.
I too have had to learn to re-adjust the way I approach conversations, especially those when you only feel like confronting the other person armed with your “evidence” of a slip-up or whatever. It’s hard at first but mutual respect does go a far way.
I did loose the entire post and had to rewrite the whole thing. Trying to remember what you wrote us not easy! However, although similar, I am happier with this version so sometimes Do-overs are a good thing…especially since I’m new to blogging! Thank you for stopping by to comment! Have a great weekend!
I know what you mean about trying to remember and the result is usually a nice surprise too. Take care and have a great weekend too 🙂
Thanks, I will!
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