Reflections and Self Worth

IMG_8745.JPGReflections represent an original. The reflections of our mind recall past events, images and experiences. The reflection of water, mirrors or metallic surfaces project an image through a filter of light and surface. The reflection of character, behaviours and achievements provide insight to the inner person.

IMG_8744.JPGThe quality of the reflection depends strongly on the clarity of the surface being used to produce the reflection.

Looking for a reflection of our self-worth and value from another person is like looking into a cracked mirror in order to access our appearance. Hurting souls can reflect brokenness and pain. Therefore, allowing our self-worth and value to depend on the perception others reflect back to us is unhealthy. When someone we love treats us in an unloving way for prolonged amounts of time, there is a tendency to view ourselves as unlovable. Yet, the reflection is distorted. Their broken heart will not provide an accurate reflection of love.

Nor will young women find their body image correctly reflected through trends, magazines or movie stars. When I view my short legs, thick thighs and curvy structure to the model industry standard, I will always come up wanting. The key is to shape the view of my body on a true reflection.

Our mind sees what it believes, according to the Discovery Channel. I have known many beautiful women who could not see their beautiful uniqueness because of their belief based on external reflections. Those reflections tormented and haunted them to the point of misery.

Reflections are a tool…only a tool. They can help us repair, adjust, fix, or improve the original but they are never intended to be the truest representation of the original.

IMG_8746.JPGThe still water serves as a mirror for the tree, and its reflection is what makes the photograph sing. -unknown

The image sings only because of the stillness of the water.

IMG_8747.JPGSamantha Pearson is a contributing photographer for my blog. Although, I did not take this photo, it demonstrates my point about reflections. The beautiful sculpture is reflecting it’s surroundings yet the snow and the curvature of the piece distort the images it portrays. The truest beauty can be seen by simply turning from the reflection to the original.

In my journey, I have learned the value in turning from distorted reflections to look at the original standard for which I was created. Only then can I be the singing image that portrays that I was fearfully and wonderfully made.

D

Cee’s Black and White Photo Challenge: Reflections and Shadows

A Long Walk Off A Short Pier

IMG_2075.JPGI don’t think my dad has ever used a curse word in his 74 years of life. As a kid, I often heard him say, “Take a long walk off a short pier.” He had a dry sense of humor but sometimes I thought that this was his nice way of telling someone to “Take a hike.” Funny how we remember things we hear from childhood.

When I looked at this photo this week, my dad’s quip immediately came to mind. I could just imagine a walk right off the end of this little pier.

My entry this week is more nostalgic than it is anything else. No beautiful path. Just a reminder that hurtful words can not be recaptured and that how we use our words is important.

In the movie, Step Mom, the biological mother often tells her son to “use his words”.

Words are a powerful tool. By adding some thought before use, we accomplish so much more.

I hope you enjoyed my walk down memory lane today as my entry for Cee’s Which Way Photo Challenge 2014 #16.

Hey, the weekend is not far away. Have you had a good week?
D

Poppy Vibrance

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Cee’s Fun Foto Challenge: Vibrant Colors

A Word A Week Photo Challenge: Fly

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Dare to touch the sky, dare to fly.

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Fly high and soar.

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Let loose of what weighs you down and set your heart free.

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Fly…fly…fly.

A Word A Week Photo Challenge: Fly

One Word Photo Challenge: Mint

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My entry for One Word Photo Challenge: Mint is a fern frond taken while on a bush walk.

The koru (Māori for “loop”) is a spiral shape based on the shape of a new unfurling silver fern frond and symbolizes new life, harmony, growth, strength and peace. The koru is an integral symbol in Māori art, carving and tattoos.

My Beautiful Sister

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She was my very first friend,

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One of the bravest souls that I know,

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She is my sister.
In 1983, she suffered a spinal cord injury as a result of an auto accident. Her strength, courage and compassionate heart are beautiful to me.
The great love of her life has always been her children and grandchildren.

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Cee’s Black & White Challenge: What is beatuiful to you.

Which Way Challenge: The Jaffa Race

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Dunedin, New Zealand -this is the steepest street in Dunedin and the Jaffa race.

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The Cadbury factory is located in Dunedin and they host an annual Jaffa race.

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What is a Jaffa?

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Jaffas are lollies. Chocolate with a red candy shell. They are round and about the size of a gumball or jawbreaker.
Cee’s Which Way Photo Challenge 2014 #15

Cee’s Fun Foto Challenge: Soft Pastels

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Cee’s Fun Foto Challenge: Soft Pastels

One Word Photo Challenge: Navy

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I love how the water color graduates from light green to navy.

One Word Photo Challenge: Navy

Rock Bottom

“Rock bottom became a solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life.” -J. K. Rawlings

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Kaikora, New Zealand

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Cozy Nook

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Riverton Beach, New Zealand

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We have learned to start over since childhood. Piles of paper crumpled on the floor as we started rewriting an assignment. Rebuilding a sandcastle destroyed by a playful sibling. Or maybe redoing kindergarten to ensure foundational knowledge was gained.

I once tried to cut my own hair. Talk about an epic fail. The stylist told me it looked like it had been cut with a knife and spoon. Thank God for Google because I didn’t give up doing it myself. I needed to start over and gain some skill.

I’ve had to rebuild several times in my lifetime; financially, in love, in career, and physical and emotional health.

I imagine in the darkest hours of one’s life, “begin again” would seem useless or uncaring advice. But it is indeed the answer.

All life challenges bring about an ending–and the chance for a beginning. Starting over produces fear, anxiety and sadness but with the right, solid foundation a new start can bring unimaginable benefits.

For me, faith has been the most solid place to begin to rebuild. From this foundation, I have applied truths of forgiveness, gained courage and reassurance, and applied wisdom for making better decisions than I had previously.

Have you ever had to start over or rebuild in your life? What was the foundation you found most beneficial?

A rock is a symbol of stability, dependability and strength.

When beginning again or rebuilding make sure to check that you are building on a solid foundation.

D

Cee’s Black and White Challenge: Rocks