“Her heart was a secret garden and the walls were very high.” ~William Goldman, The Princess Bride There are four kinds of people in the world. Those who build walls. Those who protect walls. Those who breach walls. And those … Continue reading
You are beautiful, my darling, beautiful beyond words. Your eyes are like doves behind your veil. Your hair falls in waves, like a flock of goats winding down the slopes. ~Solomon
When was the last time you took a leap of faith?
As we have opportunity, let us do good to everyone. ~Paul
Whatever the activity in which you engage, do it with all your ability, ~Solomon
Like cold water to a thirsty soul,so is good news from a far country. ~Proverbs
There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens:~Solomon
Anxiety in a man’s heart weighs it down, But a good word makes it glad. – Proverbs
Sometimes losing your way is the only way to find your way. ~Unknown
A man must be big enough to admit his mistakes,
Smart enough to profit from them,And strong enough to correct them.” ~John Maxwell
I’ve made a few.
There’s a gut wrenching moment when your attention is turned to the reality of a mistake. The “I wish I could crawl into a hole right now” feeling that seduces a desire to deny its existence. Denying, though tempting, is enslaving. Disappointing. Haunting.
Truth is where freedom from the mistake begins.
Freeing the embarrassment from lingering.
Freeing the opportunity to learn, grow, mature, correct.
The difficulty is believing my mistakes represent who I am.
But they don’t.
They only represent what I did, at a given moment, with the knowledge, skill, and ability I had at the time.
Knowledge can be increased.
Skill can be learned or gained.
Ability can be improved.
And I can use all those to do better.
Owning my mistakes, learning from them and correcting them…are the true measures of a man (or woman, in my case).
The reward of a thing well done is having done it. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson Mr. Emerson is completely correct but this girl likes a little bit of a reward now and then. Every summer when it’s time to take a … Continue reading
Finishing a book is bittersweet. You spend days getting to know the characters. Learning their nuances, their faults, their loves, their lives. They become your friends, acquaintances, enemies. And after the story ends, you miss them. Eventually you realise they aren’t a part of your world, you were just briefly visiting theirs.” ~Unknown
Memories, even bittersweet ones, are better than nothing. ~Jennifer Armentrout
It’s kind of bittersweet. The human spirit is not measured by the size of the act, but by the size of the heart. ~Yakov Smirnoff
Happiness. Simple as a glass of chocolate or tortuous as the heart. Bittersweet. Alive.” ― Joanne Harris, Chocolat
I adore the word bittersweet. I guess it because it describes so many moments in my life. Some days, I am ambivalent about that fact but even the bitter parts can taste the sweetest eventually.
My chocolate…must never be bittersweet, though. Never!
Because our schedule is quite hectic this time of year, some days it can feel like all we do is work, eat and sleep, especially for my husband who carries most of the weight of our growing business. Couple that with unpredictable weather and it’s easy to lose perspective of life outside of our four walls. One of the things my husband enjoys is taking a walk in the fresh air.
Yesterday the weather was beautiful and sunny and then it looked ominous and then the sun shone through the cloud covered sky just before the clouds dropped buckets of rain on us.
Even during the dreary part of the weather the view is pretty spectacular.
The water was several shades of glistening blue and green.
Even the weeds were color-full.
At one point I felt a rush of wind go past my head; this beautiful wood pigeon perched himself in a tree near by unconcerned with my presence.
My colour filled walk made me think about how we as women color the world and bring a brightness that no other creature on earth brings. Creation was incomplete until woman was set in it’s midst. Then creation was complete and a special brightness existed.
However, there are times when we don’t show our true colors. Normally, we we discuss a person showing their true colors, we think of it in a negative way. The idiom came to be used because long ago ships were identified by the flag colors flown on the mast. Pirates used to use false colors to hide their true identity.
Times of stress, conflict, adversity, failure, or when we feel angry or fearful challenge us on our journey. Critical situations can put our moral impulses, courage and strength to the test.
Maya Angelo is attributed to have said that, “You can tell a lot about a person by the way they handle three things: a rainy day, lost luggage and tangled Christmas tree lights.”
How we respond, how we deal with, and how we resolve those situations are said to be the times that we show our true colors.
But today I am not talking about the negative aspect of who we are. I am referring to the richness and quality of the person we are that sometimes gets hidden out of fear.
Sometimes we reserve the truest, richest colors of our be-ing for 3 reasons:
1. People Pleasing. When we feel the need to be loved by “all” fear of disappointing someone keeps your true colors suppressed. As long as you continue to exist just to fulfill other people’s ideas of who you should be, you will never be the truest you.
2. Negativity. Negativity and self loathing change our perspective on life. Judging others and ourselves negatively increases our fear that others will see us the way we perceive things. Positivity is nourishing as is having a grateful perspective. Practice looking for the good in others, in situations and yourself. You will find that you are freer to show the world your true colors without fear.
3. Confronting ourselves. Confrontation is not easy at the best of times. But we need to confront ourselves. We need to ask ourselves the difficult questions concerning why we do the things we do so that we are keeping true to the big picture…our purpose. We all need to be accountable and I’ve found that holding myself accountable, although difficult, keeps me shining at my brightest.
Be who you are, be your genuine self.
Follow your own value system and common sense.
Listen to the advice of others, but make up your own mind.
Recognize, appreciate, and develop your unique talents.
Stand up for what you believe in and you will gain respect.
Know that being ‘different’ is a gift.
Understand that you are enriching others by being yourself.
No one can color the world quite like you can!
Life is a mixture of sunshine and rain, teardrops and laughter, pleasure and pain.
The heart has an amazing capacity for love. It expands so that love can be multiplied. You don’t have to worry, your heart will work with you. The more you fill it, the more it can take! Even if broken, it won’t leak. You might think it can’t take anymore, but it can. It will mend and get right back to the work it does best…loving.